Making Friends in College

Making friends in college can be tough but it can also be easy if you put yourself out there and stay true to who you are as a person. The great thing about being in college is that most people live on campus so you are already in the same place as lots of other people your age. Classes and extracurriculars also gives you an automatic excuse to have to talk to lots of different people.  For some people it is definitely easier said than done. Here are the three things that helped me in terms of making friends while I was in college. I try to explain what each really means because it is a way different environment than high school and many people take lots of adjusting.

Be yourself: During college many people meet friends that will, in some way or another, be with them for the rest of their lives. The sooner you start being true to who you are instead of being who everyone else wants you to be, the sooner you find the people who will be with you through everything and the people who really make you happy.

Get involved: I understand that not everyone likes participating in campus activities but being active on your campus really helps in finding those people. Being active on campus means that you are involved in several different activities. Selectively choose the things that sound most interesting to you because you do not want to overdo it but definitely be involved in several. Maybe some clubs, sports and/or committees, also having an on-campus job can be a great way to both meet people and make some money.

Let yourself be spontaneous: This one is not quite as self-explanatory. During college I was the type of person who made myself super busy all the time. I was either in class, at a meeting or doing a sport. I had to plan out when I was going to hang out with friends. I realized that giving yourself some time during the day to just let what happens happen can actually make for the most exciting adventures and the best conversations. You never know what will happen or who will come your way. Just kind of spend some time going with the flow and you are bound to meet new people and have some fun you really weren’t expecting.


I think these rules apply to lots of different situations, not necessarily just college. It can be really intimidating though to be at a new school with lots of different people. Most of all, I would try stepping out of your comfort zone a little and just having conversations with people. You never know who you are meeting.


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